When I went to the gym today, a kindly old lady, who happens to be the owner of the Care Fitness Center said this to me. “Hija, baka naman puro business ang iniisip mo, you shoud concentrate on finding a man! Sige ka, mawawala ka sa calendaryo.”
I smiled politely and returned to the exercise.
It’s really not that I’m not looking. It’s just that he hasn’t found me yet. Mr. Right, wherever you are, come already.
Yeah, it must be Filipino beliefs that a woman must be married before she turns the age of 30 or 31 for that matter. They consider the expression “mawawala ka sa calendaryo” a threat to women who are still single at that age. Perhaps, it has something to do with bearing children and how it is supposed to be harder the later days in life. So, people everywhere are putting unnecessary pressure on use 30 something single ladies to get married.
Well, it’s not that easy. First, you have to find the right guy for you, your perfect match. nothing less. second you can’t just meet a guy, and get married in a few weeks. You have to build a relationship, and trust and fall in love.
For women like me whose gone through that hell and back, its harder. We become more skeptical. We become more calculating and choosy. We scrutinize guys like crazy. Finding faults on even the most decent guys. For us, they have to be perfect according to our standards, no more no less. So the standard is high.
Personally, I am not pressured at all to find someone. I guess I am tired of running and chasing. I just want someone to come and rescue me from this loneliness. If he comes, I know by then, I’ll be ready for him.